Talking about sexual health can feel awkward, but it’s one of the most important things you can do for a healthy, trusting relationship. It’s all about safety and respect. This guide breaks down how to start the conversation.
- Find the Right Time & Place: Don’t bring it up in the heat of the moment. Choose a calm, private time when you’re both relaxed and won’t be interrupted.
- Know Your “Why”: Are you discussing STI testing? Contraception? Boundaries? Go in with a clear idea of what you want to cover.
- Use “I” Statements: Frame it from your perspective to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, “I feel safer and more connected when we’re open about our sexual health,” is better than “You need to get tested.”
- Be a Good Listener: This is a two-way conversation. Listen to their feelings and concerns without judgment.
- Make it a Team Effort: Suggest doing things together, like getting tested, to show you’re in it as a team.